One of my biggest fears after Matty was diagnosed with Autism was “What if we had another baby? Would we have to go through this again?”. Don’t get me wrong. I love Matty for who he is, and that includes all things Autism. But honestly, I would rather not have to trek down the Autism road a second time if I don’t have to.
Once Lily came along, I decided that I would do things a lot more cautiously. I’ve learned so much about things like the body and immune system, nutritional aspects associated with Autism, the importance of limiting chemical exposure (and much more) from my first go-round. Here’s what we are doing differently:
- Nursing–Matty didn’t tolerate it one bit. He constantly threw-up, and we had to start giving him soy formula. Lily was supplemented with formula for the first week and a half until things came through on my end, and has done exceptionally well with exclusive nursing since then.
- Vaccines–I haven’t gone into the whole Autism/vaccine debate, but in a nutshell, my theory is that vaccines aren’t completely to blame on their own, but they aren’t completely blameless either. Matty had seizures after vaccines, which stopped when we stopped vaccinating him. We PRAYED for months over our decision to vaccinate Lily, and worked very hard with our pediatrician to come up with a schedule that would protect her, yet still work with what we were comfortable with. Lily is ten months old today and we are just now getting to her four month shots. We have done two at a time, waited two months before doing the DTaP shot (which we ONLY do separately), then wait another two months before doing the others. We’ve fallen a bit behind because we will only vaccinate when she is completely healthy…not coming off of illness, when she has a cold, etc. I made that mistake with Matty, and I won’t do it again.
- Food–I’ve done A LOT of research about food and nutrition. I gave Matty lots of rice cereal, sodium-filled baby foods jars, wheat products, bottles filled with BPA and other nasty chemicals (and heated them in the microwave…I know…)and other stuff that I have since learned are no-no’s. Lily has had rice cereal once, and that is because I didn’t complete my research before giving it to her. We started Matty on solids at four months because I figured feeding him “real” food would help him sleep through the night (even though at almost six years old “real” food doesn’t help much). We held off until Lily turned six months, and started her with avocado. I also am making her baby food (love my Baby Beaba!) and use everything organic my grocery store carries. Unfortunately, there are some foods that aren’t available here organically, and I have to go with what is available. I frequently view the “dirty dozen” list when choosing fruits and veggies for Lily.
- Chemicals–We have eliminated a lot of chemicals from our home. I use vinegar for almost everything, even killing weeds in the flower beds. We purchased an organic mattress for Lily and put organic barriers between her and chemical-ridden items as much as possible.
- Medications–I was one of those parents who did Tylenol for everything. Once again, I’ve done a lot more research, and have only given Lily Tylenol twice (once she crossed the six-month threshold, we began with Motrin). Antibiotics are another medication that Matty took continually throughout his first year, and we have successfully avoided them with Lily, treating her ear infection naturally (who knew that 87% of ear infections don’t need antibiotics–I didn’t!).
Will Lily have Autism? I don’t know. We are getting closer to the age where I noticed symptoms with Matty, and it’s scary. But I do notice some differences between the two. Lily hasn’t had near the medical issues Matty had (although she hasn’t been feeling well this past week). She sleeps so much more than Matty did at her age. She’s pointing to objects and brings me things that she is interested in. She watches me talk to her and tries to imitate the sounds. Are these indicators that she is “safe”? Once again, I don’t know. What I do know is that I am taking precautions that I feel are in her best interests to limit that will hopefully lead to a different outcome. But if she does? We will have a head start on the game.
Thank you for reading today.